My husband and I were at a restaurant recently, and the service was terrible. The waitress was cranky, slow, and snippy. Both Scott and I could practically feel our blood boiling, and we were both complaining about her attitude. Within minutes, we were acting about as miserably as she was.
Just then, Scott remembered advice that an old friend had told him about how to deal with difficult people. “You can be a blesser or a curser.”
“We really ought to pray for her,” Scott said, “instead of complaining about her.”
So that’s what we did.
In that moment, our heart softened toward her. Truth is, we had no idea what was going on in her life. Maybe her husband walked out on her. Maybe her cat died. Maybe the doctor just called with bad news. Maybe she was just having a bad day for no reason in particular.
Now, that’s no excuse for her bad behavior toward other people. But my husband and I knew we had a choice: We could bless her with our prayers and our kindness, or we could curse her in our hearts, and treat her poorly in return.
We made our choice: to bless.
It’s not always easy, but today, I recommit myself to choose the way of blessing. I will be a blesser, not a curser.
“In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven” (Matthew 5:16).
“Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing” (1 Peter 3:9).
How challenging is it for you to be a blesser, not a curser? Share your thoughts in the comments.