Want to Change the World? Start by Making Your Bed

April 23, 2015 | 51 comments

(This story is featured in my new book, The Happiness Dare.)

I made my bed this morning.

This is kind of a big deal.

Because not only did I make my bed, but it’s the FOURTH DAY IN A ROW of making my bed. That is the longest streak of bed-making in my adult life. I stopped making my bed on a regular basis after I left home for college in 1990.

A little perspective for you: That’s the year MC Hammer hit the charts with “Can’t Touch This.”

But this morning? I made my bed. I pulled the sheets tight, straightened the comforter over the top, and set the pillows just so. And because I was feeling particularly ambitious, I opened the blinds, to let the morning light stream in on that tidy rectangle.

I had spent the last quarter of a century convincing myself that making the bed was an utter waste of time, seeing how we’d only be undoing that same bed at the close of day.

Now, that doesn’t mean that I never made my bed. I enthusiastically made it after purchasing a new bedding set at the store. But my enthusiasm would wane after approximately 37.5 hours.

I also made the bed when we were expecting guests, particularly my mother who, for all these years, has wrongly assumed that she had instilled the bed-making habit in her daughter.

Woe to me, I’ve been living a lie.

But this morning, I made my bed. And I throughly repented of my 25 years of slothful behavior as Ms. RumpleSheets.

I felt a quiet sense of accomplishment standing in the doorway, admiring my feat of housekeeping bravado.

And then the craziest things started happening, there in that stream of morning light. I picked up a stray sock, and then a bobby pin and then a small stack of unfolded clothes from the bedroom floor. (I didn’t want the clutter messing with my serene sanctuary.)

Then I went to the kitchen, cleared out the kitchen sink, loaded the dishwasher, reorganized my Tupperware cupboard, lit three candles, and pulled a metal pig from the corner of the kitchen and set him out, front and center, as a conversation piece. (The pig holds wine corks in his belly.) It took all of 15 minutes.

My act of bed-making had set off a chain of small household tasks.

And then I stood back and admired all of it, because hi, I’m weird. 

I felt like a grown-up — a happy, legit grown-up with a made bed, a clean sink, one decluttered cupboard, and a pig on the counter. I felt like a woman who had miraculously pulled herself up from the energy-sucking Bermuda Triangle of Household Chaos.

And then I remembered that I still had my “crap stack” of papers by the counter. The crap stack — as my friend Trish affectionately calls it — presently includes graduation invitations, a weekly food journal, and a $92 speeding ticket that needs to be paid by next Tuesday.

Woe to me, I am not only living lies. I’m breaking laws, while keeping two-foot-tall, teetering crap stacks.

(Work in progress, gentle readers. I’m a work. in. progress. Jesus came to deliver us from condemnation, but apparently not from Lyon County Sheriff’s Deputy Mark Dorhout — or the daily onslaught of paperwork.)

Who knows if this new bed-making habit will stick? Maybe I’m telling you about it today, because I’m hoping it will. Studies show that if people publicly make a confession, and commit to a new way of living, other people are generally empathic and begin to act as accountability partners. And studies also show that adults who make their beds are happier. I don’t know where those studies are, but I believe that they are real, people.

Plus, my friend Melissa is telling me I should stick with it. She’s the one who first rescued me from that black hole of disorganization, after all. You see, I read through her amazing new book, Love the Home You Have

 (almost entirely in one sitting) earlier this week. There’s a lot of great stuff in that book, trust me. But among many things, Melissa wrote that I had to start making my bed. She said it would help me start an essential morning routine. And since she’s the 2015 readers’ favorite decorating blog at Better Homes & Gardens, I figured she knows what she’s talking about.

So I started making my bed.

This — I now understand — is what millions of healthy, happy grown-ups around the world have been doing for centuries.

I feel like I’ve been invited to a secret club.

A club that, as it turns out, the head of the Navy Seals also belongs to. He says that if you want to change the world, start the day by making your bed.

“If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day,” the good admiral says. “It will give you a small sense of pride, and it will encourage you to do another task, and another and another. And by the end of the day, that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that the little things in life matter. If you can’t do the little things right, you can’t do the big things right.”

I like that.

Plus, if the rest of the day is a disaster, I can still come home to a bed that I made with my own two hands. And that’s no small thing at all.

Oh! There’s one more thing I want to tell you about making your bed. It’s a WWJD thing.

What would Jesus do? I thought you’d never ask.

Well, do you remember that little bit in Scripture, where the linen cloth has been folded neatly in the tomb, after the resurrection? You know what that means, right?

JESUS MADE HIS BED. I didn’t cross-check with the Greek or anything, but I’m pretty sure that’s what it means.

Moral of the story: If the Savior of the World could find the time to make His bed before His Grand Exit, then I can surely find the time to make mine.

“But don’t you think the angels folded the cloth?” my husband asked me this morning, attempting to destroy the only redeeming spiritual point of this entire blog post.

“No. That’s not possible,” I retorted, with the obvious guidance and wisdom of the Holy Spirit who lives and reigns within me. “Jesus would never have asked the angels to serve Him by making His bed. He came, not to be served, but to serve.”

So there you have it, friends. Make your bed. It will change your life. It will make you more like Jesus.

Go in peace, and serve the Lord.

Your Turn:

Do you make your bed? Regularly? Ever?

Is there any secret to getting those maddening fitted sheets to fit on the mattress the right way, on the first try?

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by | April 23, 2015 | 51 comments


  1. Michelle DeRusha

    LOVE it, Jennifer – especially your Theology of Bed Making (aka: would did Jesus do?). I make my bed and open the blinds every morning. And I also make my kids’ beds if they “forgot.” And, as I mentioned on your FB thread on this topic, I make the dog’s bed, too (she has an old comforter on top of her doggie bed, because she is the Princess and the Pea, so I straighten the comforter for her). I am the Queen of All Bed Making. Because I’m Triple Type A. It kind of goes with the territory. 🙂

    • dukeslee

      I just asked you on Twitter — before seeing this comment — if you made your bed. And then I said to myself, “Are you kidding? This is your friend, Michelle that we’re talking about here!!!” …

    • Sally Welch

      I love your Princess and the Pea comment. Actually, if it’s cold, our dog will”dig and dig” to make herself a nest, but I do straighten her covers. The “bed fairy” makes our bed. It is a joke between my husband and me. Usually, it’s him since I’m either walking the dog and getting hubby’s paper or fixing pet and people breakfast. If I’m going out somewhere, like church, I like to lay my clothes out on the made bed. That is a quirk I have acquired in my later years!

  2. Katharine Barrett

    So … I could have written this, every word(except I do not own a metal pig, and my beds been left unmade about 8 yrs longer) Last week I bought new Spring sheets and a duvet cover, so the bed has been made… Maybe this time it will last!

    • dukeslee

      We can be accountability partners, Katharine! 🙂

  3. Ally V

    I love making my bed! It makes me feel so good to walk into a home, into a bedroom, that looks nice just for me (well, and hubby, too).

    • dukeslee

      All of you chronic bed-makers are so kind, not casting the wee bit of judgment on my slothful behavior. 🙂 Thanks for sharing, Ally! I hope I can keep it up.

  4. De Anna Morris

    I always make my bed… I feel it is 90% of a clean bedroom. And 90 is close to 100% so I feel so accomplished at the start of my day! hahah!!!

    • dukeslee

      Amen to that, De Anna. 90 is goooood.

      • dukeslee

        (That’s like an A- or a B+ on most grading scales! ) 🙂

  5. dukeslee

    Thanks for sharing your story, Ro. It’s crazy how one little act sets off a chain of goodness. 🙂

  6. Ann Kroeker

    I’m a reformed bed-maker. I used to leave it rumpled, too busy or too apathetic to bother with it. Then I was at a wedding shower in the 1990s, and we were supposed to go around and share a chore we actually liked. I remember one woman explaining that she liked making the bed, not because she liked the work of it, but because she liked the result of it. She said she realized when she made the bed–the biggest piece of furniture and the focal point of the room–the rest of the room could be a little cluttered and it still looked pretty good. It was a big return on investment of her time and energy. That stuck with me, so I started making my bed (though I got a floofy comforter for the easiest possible method). Not every day, but most days. And now I’ve even added a bedspread on top of the floofy comforter, which means I kind of have to spread it out flat to keep it from looking wrinkled, and you know? I don’t mind, because I like the way it looks. Mine isn’t as pretty as yours. But it makes me feel less out of control; a little more peaceful. I can use all the peace I can get.

    • Caryn Jenkins Christensen

      I’m with you ~ Floofy comforters make all the difference Ann! 😉

  7. karen

    Growing up I shared a room with my sister. She was ultra neat and I was…..NOT. But, one day she told me that if I didn’t make my bed, bugs would get in it. Not a day has gone by since then that I have not at least pulled the covers up! 🙂

  8. Christine Duncan

    Oh, but I’ve enjoyed this post, Jennifer! Made me smile from start to finish and gosh dern it, I went and made my bed after….

  9. LW Lindquist

    I know, I was supposed to say something about weeping all the way through, but I actually was chuckling all the way. I’ll admit to being a bit fearful about the way this one habit seems to creep into other parts of a person’s life. Anyway, let’s hope Mama D is proud. 🙂

  10. Paige Estes

    Jennifer Dukes Lee, you made me smile today! Thank you!

  11. Dawn Camp

    Loved this, Jennifer! Yes, I’m a bed maker, except sometimes on Sunday mornings. The rest of the house has a long way to go. This morning I decided to finish painting my kitchen, which I started about a month and a half ago. I had to clean the kitchen because you can’t stand on the countertop to paint above the cabinets if there’s nowhere to put your feet, right?

    One of my neighbors dropped by and found me painting, which lead to a discussion about paint, which lead to her asking the color of our bedroom. I barely opened our door and showed the color because I was convinced I hadn’t gotten around to making the bed. When she left, I realized that I had after all. 🙂

  12. Doug Spurling

    didn’t Jesus just fold the part that covered his head? So, actually he just fluffed the pillow.

    • Sylvia R @ sylvrpen.com

      Hey, it isn’t what He tidied, but that His action reflected tidyness. (which reminds me that God is a God of order and not of chaos… 🙂 )

  13. Shanyn

    I love a made bed. Things tidy. My hubby is less, well he could live out of a pile of clothes and then sleep on them. So it was MY battle to make the bed…but then a wonderful thing happened. He started making it, for ME. And our 9 year old does now too…and it makes the day start right. Tea,(coffee), smoothie, made bed and out the door we go. It makes a world of difference to come home to clean counters and a made bed. Like order awaits in a world of chaos. 🙂 Bless you!

  14. Laura Risser Moss

    I loved this so much. I’m anxious to get Melissa’s book, too. I am most definitely a bed maker – I even make the beds in the hotel rooms my people and me stay in (full disclosure: it drives my people crazy when I do this). For me, it helps to know that I’ve done something to preserve the sanctuary-ness of my bedroom…even on days when the rest of the house is a shambles. I’ll toss up a prayer for your bedmaking to continue each morning as I make my own. 🙂

  15. Katie Andraski

    Yeah I make my bed but pretty sloppy. This made me smile. When school lets out I hope to do a major spring cleaning. Paper grading season means a very messy house–tracked in dirt, dust from the road seeping in, shavings from the barn.

    I heard that folded napkin was something a guest did at dinner which meant he was coming back. I like what you say–that Jesus made his bed…thanks for this…

  16. Jenni DeWitt

    Oh this is hilarious! My friend just announced last week she’s begun making her bed again. It’s something her Air Force father tried to instill in her years ago for all the reasons you and the Navy admiral mentioned. Maybe you are on to something? I don’t know, but God usually speaks to me in three’s, so I get one more before I have to start making my bed! Lol Thanks for the laugh today, Jennifer.

  17. Dede

    Love this post and yes, I do make my bed now. I used to have the same opinion you did but for some reason I started making it and felt so much better when I did. So I stuck with it.

  18. Michele Morin

    I definitely make my bed in the morning. It affirms for me that the little things matter to God, and, like you, I do find that discipline in one area begets discipline elsewhere.

  19. Jody Ohlsen Collins

    As I said on Facebook re: this admirable post/comment, I’ve been making my bed every morning that I can recall…along with my hubby. However, it did nothing to make MY speeding ticket disappear, the one in my ‘crap stack.’ I did show up last Monday and get the fine reduced, tho’, ’cause God is awesome like that.
    But bedmaking? yep it’s the little things that help the chaos.

  20. Lorna Jansen

    I loved this fresh, witty post. I am a regular bed maker and home cleaner, but with my first baby on the way, I know I have a season of grace (for myself and others) ahead of me. I look forward to reading more about your bed making days 🙂

  21. Judy

    I am an every day bed maker, and it makes me feel good. I just wish it would work to help me get of several piles in other areas :o) Looking forward to hear if this sticks for you. Thanks for a great post!

  22. Martha Orlando

    Yes, I make up the bed every morning unless I plan to change sheets later in the day. Loved this post, Jennifer, so filled with humor and wit. Also love the concept of Jesus folding His own linen cloth – wow! Such a concept!
    Love and blessings!

  23. Linda Mickelson Polson

    Put the fitted sheet on one corner at a time but don’t do it top top bottom bottom. Do diagonal corners top left bottom right top right bottom left. It is the best way to do it without hurting your back or struggling to get it to work.
    I love having my bed made. My mother drilled it into me and it just feels good.

  24. Caryn Jenkins Christensen

    Sure enjoyed your post today! I’m a part-time bed maker ~ probably always will be, although I’m going to make my bed now in hopes that is spurs me on to other areas in the house that need my attention!

  25. Misty Fantauzzo

    I LOVE this! Thank you to Melissa for directing us to your post today. I haven’t made an official commitment with myself to make my bed but I do notice that when I do, it just feels better and you are right “more grown up”! thanks for the inspiration. I’ll go make my bed right now.

  26. cynthialottvogel

    I used to religoiusly make my bed, before doing ANYTHING else….all through freshman year in college…..then came major depression and a hospital stay…where the staff LAUGHED at me for making my bed. They told me I needed to loosen up. And I did. Making my bed became sporadic and I haven’ t done it in at least five years. UNITL YESTERDAY….when I made my bed. And then I happened on this article today. So if you’ll excuse me…I have to go make my bed. (BTW that was in 1981 when Duran Duran released their first album)

    • Anne

      I can’t believe staff would laugh at someone who makes their bed. If it made you feel better to make your bed, then what was wrong with that? And if they wanted you to loosen up, they could’ve simply said, “Here, I’ll do it you. You need to rest.”

  27. B KP

    My grandmother always said, doesn’t matter if your room is clean. If the bed isn’t made the room looks a mess. Couldn’t agree more and it’s been great advice for years! If I walk in a bedroom and the sheets are all rumpled its the first thing I notice! Thanks for the post!

  28. Betsy Cruz

    Hilarious! My husband makes my bed. And when he’s out of town? Well, I scramble to make it up before he returns!!!! But your post gives me hope that maybe I can get a few things done around here too and maybe even end up changing the world!?

  29. Beth Jackson

    If you really want fitted sheets to go on right the first time, buy sheets that have stripes. it takes all of the guess work out.

  30. Susan Lantz

    I haven’t been, but I I’m going to get started and try my very best to make it a habit! I have been of the same thinking, why make it if you’re just goingto undo it later. But I am a grown up, and if Jesus did it I should be too! So here I go!

  31. Bruce Barone

    This is one of the greatest posts I have ever read!

  32. Ashley Tolins Larkin

    I wake hours before my hubby, and so I’ve given myself a pass on making the bed nearly every day because, ya know, he’s still under the covers when I’m up and at ’em. Perhaps when I get dressed, which I can proudly say I do EVERY SINGLE DAY, I could take a few minutes to make the bed already. I loved reading this, friend, and I appreciate you. Can’t wait to see you at JT…I hope. Right?

    • Wendy L. Gunns

      Rule at my house is : last one outta bed makes the bed!

  33. Nicki Edwards

    One of the best posts of yours I’ve ever read. And I totally agree with the bed making thing. It was the one thing that saved my sanity as a first time mum with a crying baby. My best friend said, no matter how tired you are, get up, get dressed and make your bed.

  34. Pat Aho

    According to Reader’s Digest, the state of your bed is the state of your head.

  35. Julie

    I do make my bed every day…oops, well there are some Sundays, lately a couple of Sundays, I come home & make the bed! 🙂 I just can’t think clearly or get ready properly without that little bit of order getting under control. 🙂 A striped sheet (tone on tone) gets the fitted sheet on correctly first try; the straight edge of the bottom sheet is usually an end; for the big deep pocketed “fits any size” bottom sheet I put the tag at the bottom, goes right on! 🙂 My sis & I have been iMessaging Before & After photos of our decluttering challenge this week; it’s so freeing to tackle these areas that I “never have time for!” Progress, not perfection! 🙂

  36. Sylvia R @ sylvrpen.com

    I. love. this!! I am a recovering Creative Messy (meaning, one who’s creative at making messes), who has improved slightly with each decade. Might I even make it to meticulous before my own exit? Hoping. I relapse, and not infrequently, but oh, how I’ve grown! And ya know, I think it all began with a commitment to… make my bed!

    I don’t know that this alone has, or will, change the world, but maybe it has, at least one teeny corner of it. And I’m sure it has affected my daily outlook.

    I read somewhere that the bed makes up a large percentage of a room’s visual space, so that an otherwise totally tidy room with an unmade bed will look messy, and a somewhat cluttered room with a neatly made bed will give a fair impression of tidy. And tidy is catching as much as messy is. Carry on! My heart and prayers (and smile) are with you!

    And thanks for this, personally. It’s a picker-upper and a motivator for me, too, to carry on!

  37. Lisa-Jo Baker

    I have a crush on this post. Fascinating. I realize reading it and your FB thread that for my entire adult life I’ve just guilessly assumed everyone makes their bed. I had no clue there was an entire non-bedmaking segment of the population. And I love hearing the research backing up this habit – that I absolutely agree sets my frame of mind every morning as well as every evening as I look forward to pulling back all those beautiful covers and being welcomed back to bed. WELCOME TO THE CLUB! 🙂

  38. amyyoungmiller

    Here’s a story for you: When my kiddos were small, we used to indulge in a weekly stop at a McDonald’s, after music lessons every week. There was a small kaffe klatsch of elderly gentlemen who were always there at the same time. One day one of them came over and asked the kids: did you make your beds this morning? Most of them (probably I had 4 with me at the time) had not. One, my daughter Bethany, nodded her head. She had. The gentleman reached into his pocket and brought out a single quarter, which he gave to her. This became a pattern–every week he would approach our table, and hand out quarters to the kids who had made their beds that morning. We saw in the paper months later that the old man had died! It wasn’t until then that somebody told me that he was a wealthy farmer, probably the richest man in the county! The old guy was changing our minds about bed-making and it was, I’m sure, just one of his lasting legacies.

  39. Hannah Reid

    Love the bit about being a grown up with a metal pig!
    Yes, I do make my bed. I’m a clean, flat surfaces kinda girl, but with three small children (and, let’s face it, myself), those are few and far between around here. So, my bed can be a clean surface during the day. I may not use it for anything, but it brightens my mood to walk thru my room and see it looking nice! I don’t always make it perfectly and just recently added a pretty throw pillow to my arsenal, so maybe I will end up being a grown up after all.
    Thanks for sharing this inspiration!

  40. Pea

    Crap stack! I can’t get that out of my mind as I sit here at my desk, bed made, but crap stack teetering precariously…



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