#PreApproved Sisterhood Series
Every Tuesday night, one of our PreApproved sisters shares her story on letting go of a love idol. Together, we’re giving up our love idols, and we’re not taking them back. We are already approved; we have nothing to prove. In Christ, we are #preapproved.
Deep Cleaning and Love Idols
A new year presents opportunities for us to reflect on the past while at the same time, look to the future. For me, it’s a month dedicated to change and deep cleaning. I love to purge my closets, pantry, and office of the clutter that I’ve let “pile up” over time. All too often, it’s not until I explore the very back of the closet that I find that blouse or sweater I’ve forgotten about or discover an errant platter that hasn’t been used in…forever…tucked in the recesses of the cupboard. Although such items are obviously just taking up space, I’m not always eager to let them go.
Love idols can be like that too; they take up space that belongs to God, have no real value, but feel like we can’t live without them. Just as deep cleaning in our homes is necessary, so are times of intense searching of the heart in order to identify and let go of our love idols.
Last year, after reading Jennifer’s book, I committed my love idol to the Lord. Honestly, it was a hard and uncomfortable process. Getting rid of idols always is, because we’re dying to self – something we hate doing. But God is so good and gracious in restoring new life – His life, when we do!
Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it;but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. Matt. 16:24-25
I’ve flirted with more than one love idol over the years. I’ve looked to others to get approval and gain self-esteem and I’ve held up the imaginary measuring stick of comparison in order to feel good about myself or my circumstances. But the idol most familiar to me, the one that left me craving praise and approval time and again, involves three special people.
For years, I placed my family (especially my children) above everything and everyone. I manipulated circumstances, tried to control outcomes, and worked very hard to make sure our girls were protected, noticed and given opportunities that I thought they should have, all because I didn’t receive those things growing up. I forgot that my girls were on loan from the Lord, and that there’s a difference between stewardship and ownership. I believed that if I was a good (perfect) wife and mother – a title I wanted more than anything else – somehow, I’d be more lovable. It turns out, I could have saved everyone a lot of heartache if I believed what God tells me in his Word – that I’m already preapproved!
God is very clear when He says that we are to have no other gods (idols) before him, and as with every idol we construct and raise up, God loves us enough to make sure they come down. Notice the first letter of idol starts with I? We must die to self if we are to please the Lord. God had to use extreme measures by allowing my family to fall completely apart at the seams in order show me that my way wasn’t working, before He restored us.
As 2015 begins, may I encourage you to join me in doing some deep cleaning of the heart? If you find any love idols, smash them to smithereens and put God back where He belongs – at the center of your heart.
My name is Caryn and I’m preapproved!
Caryn is a God-seeker, grace-dweller, tenderhearted daughter of the King. She is wife to her BH (Better Half), mama to two beautiful daughters, and Mrs. C to her elementary music students. She’s an ordinary woman with an extraordinary story that she seeks to live out with purpose and joy. Caryn writes at carynchristensen.com and www.deeperwaters.us.
Caryn is giving away a copy of Love Idol!
To enter for a chance to win, all you have to do is leave a comment on this blog post. She’ll pick a winner and notify you if you’ve won.