#Preapproved Sisterhood Series
Welcome to a new series, hosted here on the blog. Every Tuesday night, one of our preapproved sisters will share her story on letting go of a love idol.
Together, we’re giving up our love idols, and we’re not taking them back.
We are already approved; we have nothing to prove. In Christ, we are #preapproved.
Meet Megan Willome.
I Made Parenting a Love Idol
by Megan Willome
When Jennifer’s book came in the mail, I just about died when I saw that the words “Love Idol” were written in lipstick on a mirror.
You see, a couple of years ago Jennifer (and Lyla Lindquist) did a bloggy birthday surprise for me. Jennifer’s part included writing, “Good morning, Gorgeous” on her mirror. In lipstick.
That birthday had been a very bad day. I was so depressed I actually cleaned my house and didn’t see the lipstick wishes until late that afternoon.
Actually, what I felt wasn’t as much depression as fear. My world seemed like it was about to fall apart. Less than a year later, it did. The sun did not stop its daily rising.
In “Love Idol” Jennifer writes, “I have been guilty of ignoring nudges. I have been a modern-day Much-Afraid.” Oh, Jennifer, I loved Hannah Hurnard’s book “Hinds Feet on High Places,” too! And on that birthday I was feeling pure-D fear, which came from ignoring nudges of truth. All I could think was: What was happening? Why was it happening? When would it stop?
More than two years later, I still don’t have those answers. But most days, I’m not as afraid.
I didn’t realize during that birthday that I’d made parenting a love idol. The word “preapproved” was not in my vocabulary.
Besides, how could it be wrong to want to be a good mom? That was all I was trying to do.
The problem was it was everything I was trying to do. There was no room for God to work, and believe me, there was and is serious work to be done in my family. Work that I am incapable of doing.
“Do we make safe places for people to be real in our faith communities?” Jennifer writes. “Do we want to see people’s ‘real’? What about when someone’s real is mad at God? When their real is ugly? When their real can’t stop crying for days, even weeks? When their real is chronic? Do we want people to be real then?”
Jennifer does. She let me be a little too real for what must have seemed like a little too long.
I’ve known this book was coming since 2011, and I knew I would love it because I already love Jennifer’s writing. But I didn’t think it would be the kind of book that would motivate me to write. And write. And write. I’ve written much more than you’ll see here or over at my blog. Somehow, she gave me a way to tell my story — something I thought was impossible.
Megan Willome is managing editor of the WACOAN, a monthly lifestyle magazine, where she is also a contributing writer and columnist. She lives in Fredericksburg, Texas, with her husband, two teens and two dogs. She blogs at meganwillome.com about poetry, tea and other things.
THE LOVE IDOL MOVEMENT
Do you have a preapproved sisterhood story? We are linking them up over here.
Click here to find out more about the Love Idol movement.
Click here to purchase the book that inspired the movement.
Click here to join us on Facebook as we lay down our Love Idols and declare our #preapproved status in Christ.
Click here to print the preapproved cutouts. Place these where ever your Love Idols have lurked!
A Preapproved printable: to frame, to put on your refrigerator, to give to a friend. Click here to print. My gift to you, brave soul!