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Monday 16th January 2017

How To Deal With People Who Try To Bring You Down

choose kindness

I got a nasty email recently, which is really unusual around here. Most of my readers are incredibly kind and encouraging, and aren’t the kind of people who shoot off mean emails at 3 a.m.

I confess, I wanted to type back the most awful, non-Christian response to the meanie in my inbox.

But then I got ahold of myself. Her email was a stark reminder of a culture of meanness that has cropped up around us. It’s a meanness that is fueled by narcissism, by a wave of cynicism, and an over-appreciation for snark.

Meanness and narcissism hold hands. Meanness says, “What I feel matters most. I have no empathy for you. If you are in the way, I will run you over.” It also may indicate insecurity in the heart of the offending person.

 This week, you and I will both face people who will step on our toes. Someone will drop a passive-aggressive comment in your Facebook feed. Your spouse will pick a fight. The TSA agent will get snippy.

But you? You will have a choice what to do next.

Read more about “How to Deal with People Who Try to Bring You Down,” in my post for incourage.me.

How to Deal with People Who Try to Bring You Down

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  • Constance Ann Morrison

    Your post on kindness reminds me of the classic movie “Harvey,” where Jimmy Stewart’s character says, “Years ago my mother used to say to me, . . .’In this world, In this world, Elwood, you must be oh so smart or oh so pleasant.’ Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant.”

    • Megan Willome

      Hands down, one of my favorite quotes ever!

  • I’m so sorry you received such a nasty email, Jennifer. Sometimes it’s hard to look past a mean remark even when there are many loving remarks. Sometimes those words can even ring in our ears years down the road. But please know you are a very special person in God’s eyes and in mine. 🙂 You are preapproved! 🙂 You give such great advice on how to deal with it. To be kind even though we may be biting our tongues and wanting revenge. And waiting a day is definitely always a good idea. 🙂 Love and hugs to you!

  • Tara Ulrich

    Ick! It’s so yucky when people are mean. I am going to try and continue to choose kindness. I needed this reminder this week. Thank You!

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