#PreApproved Sisterhood Series
Welcome to a new series, hosted here on the blog. Every Tuesday night, one of our PreApproved sisters will share her story on letting go of a love idol.
Together, we’re giving up our love idols, and we’re not taking them back.
We are already approved; we have nothing to prove. In Christ, we are #preapproved.
Broken Cisterns and a Not-So-Silent God
It’s an ache that seems to never leave. The whispers, you’re only worth what you do,
what you say, what you produce.
I don’t know the moment I first believed these kinds of lies, but I live with the
ramifications of believing them, even still.
God’s I love you, I died for you, you are my beloved and my adored have a hard time
entering a heart that’s believing . . . other things. He doesn’t force us to believe Him.
He doesn’t push His way in. He let’s us choose.
He let’s us choose. Me, or the lies? Me, or that sad, hollow place that only looks sad and hollow in hindsight, that place where you try to prove yourself, that you are enough? Jesus stands there, love wrapped ‘round, asking us if we’d like to die to those old selves, the ones that actually kill us, until we decide to give Him everything—and gain life and freedom instead.
It is the lie that I am not pre-approved, that I am not worth more than what I do, that propelled me, as a teenager, to search for validation in strange places—having sex with boys in the backs of cars, on the ground in fields of almonds, the same orchards where my dad would ride a red tractor and push steel round blades into hard ground.
It is the lie that I am not pre-approved, that I am not worth more than what I do, that made my decision to have an abortion, at age 16, an easy one. What the world thought of me mattered. What my peers and my family thought of me mattered.
Their approval was the idol I worshipped, and I sacrificed the life of the baby inside of me because I cared more about my false “good girl” image than about anything else.
We learn, in Jeremiah about what God thinks about us worshipping false gods, “For My people have committed two evils: they have forsaken Me, the fountain of living waters, to hew for themselves cisterns, broken cisterns, that can hold no water (2:13). When we look anywhere other than to God for our approval, for our worth, we are forsaking Him and we choose death. Anytime we seek approval outside of God’s love, we choose death. Anytime we are convinced that we need more that what God offers, we choose death.
I’m 42 now. And the lie can still surface, the insidious whisper: you are not enough. I am better at recognizing it for what it is now. So I am not the person I was. I know, now, that I am the girl, the woman, the daughter He’s always loved. Even (and this feels too good, I know, to believe, but it is true) the night I said yes to the lie and no to the life of my child. And that it is more than I’ll ever need.
It took me decades to be open to hearing God’s voice―to be open to recognizing and rejecting the lie that my worth was something I needed to achieve rather than accept. It is difficult to accept God’s love when you’ve spent so long practicing one thing— worshiping an idol.
Are you also tired of building broken cisterns? Are you tired of looking to the world for validation? I know the messages from the world―you’re not good enough, smart enough, successful enough, pretty enough—can make it hard to hear the whispers.
But it’s through those precious whispers, if we try to hear them, if we want to hear them, that we receive His living water, from the fountain that never runs dry.
Jennifer Camp, co-founder of Gather Ministries and author of Loop, grew up in the middle of an almond orchard in Northern California. A former high school English teacher, she loves to write, but she especially loves to encourage people to seek and live out the truth of their story, their identity in Christ. You can find her writing at her blog, You Are My Girls, and also with her husband about the redemptive mess of marriage at their blog, Holy Entanglement.
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